I never understood the importance or the special bond between women.
In the past, I was hurt by girlfriends quite often.What I didn’t realize though was, that I hurt them as well. I was so afraid of getting hurt that I shielded myself from any kind of closeness, from opening up. Back then, I didn’t understand that while opening up might hurt sometimes, it’s also a necessary part of life. The important difference is, that the real friends in your life don’t hurt you on purpose but are brave enough to tell you the truth because they love you. As that might sometimes hurt, it also helps us grow. And it’s been through the beautiful women I met in Munich, who had the patience and gave me the time to open up when it felt safe to me to let my guard down, that I learned how truly rewarding a friendship between women can be.
„We need people in our live with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.“ – Thomas Moore
So my first blog goes out to the beautiful women in my life.
My beautiful girlfriends, my mom, my sister, my other mom and sisters in the States, my mentors and the strong women that are a wonderful inspiration to me.
I’m grateful to have all of you in my life.
Because they understand me in ways no man could (although I wouldn’t want to miss my wonderful guy friends that always keep me grounded with their candid truths).
Because I learned that not only my guy friends are willing to tell me the truth, but there are women out there, just like me, who are not afraid to say what they think, even if it might be the ugly truth.
Because these women do not only say what they think, they also do what they say.
Because they listen to anything I have to say, no matter how often I might need to talk about it.
Because talking to them is the best therapy that I will ever need.
Because they give their advice, even when I don’t ask for it, because they care.
Because even though I do not take their advice and I choose to do the stupid thing, they stand behind my decision 100% and are there to pick up the pieces if I crash.
Because they made me see that it is ok to show your feelings, to cry, to be in a bad mood and not always be your best self.
Because my weaknesses aren’t judged and they are still there for me during my worst but also my most special moments.
Because through them I learned that it is ok to ask for help and they will actually be there for you.
Because you can only get mad at them for a short period of time, as you have important stuff to tell them.
Because I can be weird and crazy with these extraordinary women, simply be myself.
Because happiness is not real unless it can be shared and everything is so much better when you can share it with a friend.
Because they are the girls that can make me laugh, when I don’t even want to smile (and then laugh so hard until the tears come and my tummy hurts).
Because they inspire me, bring out new wonderful thoughts and ideas and sometimes see situations and the world in a totally different yet absolutely wonderful light – a light I would have never seen if not for them.
Because even though I’m separated by thousands of miles from some of you, still nothing has changed when I see you.
Because these women test me, love me, teach me and bring out the best in me.
Because these women are the rare and amazing people that remind me why it’s worth it every day.
In our lives there is a role for everyone that you meet. Some arrive to stay; some arrive, leave and come back later; some only stay for a short while. And if you really think about it, every one of these special people, no matter how well you might know them is worth your while. Because every person is able to touch something inside of you, sometimes even open up a whole new world in you that you wouldn’t have known if not for them.
In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take. So be open, go out there, meet wonderful people. And who knows, one of your best girlfriends might just be around the corner. Life is too precious to always be careful, to always be afraid of getting hurt. I learned that the most wonderful things happen when you simply take that leap of faith and I have had wonderful moments with these special women!
You have opened me up to this extraordinary experience and I will be forever grateful that you took the time, had the patience and most of all love me for who I am.
So today tell the special women in your life what they mean to you and how grateful you are to have them in your lives. It’ll brighten up their day and yours, because there is no better feeling in the world than telling someone that you love and appreciate them.
Feel free to share your special stories in the comments below or on my Facebook page!
I look forward to hearing from you!